Imagine this.
You plod along day after day facing the same results.
You know what you want but you just can’t reach it. Things are holding you back from achieving what you truly want to achieve. You dread getting up. You dread facing the day. You’re tired at the end of the day.
Something’s gotta change. But what? What can you do?
These are classic indications of burnout. But what truly is burnout? And do you really have it?
Burnout is the point at which you reach exhaustion of either physical or emotional strength and motivation as a result of prolonged stress or frustration.
Burnout can be based on a variety of things, including:
- Having a negative work atmosphere
- Not loving what you are doing
- Not believing in what you are doing
- Having a horrible boss
- Having the wrong clientele
- False feelings of overwhelm
- Negative feelings around inappropriate action
If you see yourself in any of these, and you know you’re probably facing burnout, now what? Where do you go from here?
First, realize that burnout isn’t something controlled by outside sources. Instead, burnout is internalized and comes from self-imposed feelings created in reaction to your surroundings. When you feel pain, you continue to internalize it until it moves from feelings, to daily inflictions, to a complete restructure of your lifestyle.
And that’s when burnout really impacts you. [Read more...]






















How To Avoid Creepy Crawly People That Try To Bring You Down
I don’t get a whole lot of negative email. But occasionally one slips into my inbox.
I got an email from someone this week.
“You suck. Your stuff sucks. I can’t believe your online and in business.”
Okay, that’s not exactly what it says – but you get the point. (It had a lot of negativity and a lot more *$@% in it then I care to write here.)
I scanned the comment. Then I looked at the email address. And that’s when I started laughing.
The email address was from a generic account (ie gmail, yahoo, etc) – but in front of the @ was a saying that made the whole thing ironic.
It seems when they created their email account, they felt they were a very ethical, kind, and happy person. Could someone like that really write the message I just read?
Delete. Not worth another thought.
Yet that’s when it hit me that this could be a valuable post.
You see I’ve been online long enough now to be called every name in the book. I’ve had some of the worst comments in the world posted to pretty much every account I have. And when I received the first one, it stung more than you can imagine.
I questioned who I was, what I was doing, and a whole lot more.
Gradually I pulled myself back up and moved forward.
Number two was easier. Number three was even easier.
You see, if you’re going to subject yourself to the online world, negativity comes along with it.
When people are comfy, cozy in their homes or offices and don’t have to see the deprecations of their actions, they can sling mud all day long. Maybe they’re having a bad day. Maybe things aren’t going right in their world. Why not share a little of their misery with everyone else too.
Maybe you’ve heard the horror stories. Maybe you’re worried about the same thing happening to you. Guess what? It’s unavoidable. If you’re online, it will happen to you.
And the more successful you become, the more likely you will have these comments posed directly to you.
How do you handle it?
Realize you shouldn’t take it personally. Yes, their goal is to tear you down. But only you can allow them to do it. In the online world, your best friend is your delete key. If you don’t like something – delete. And move on.
Do they continue? If someone sends you one rude message, delete and be done. If they send you something again and again, ignore and block. Whether in your email, your blog or your Facebook account, there are features in place that allows you to block contact with certain addresses. Do what ever you can to get them out of your life. If you don’t respond, over time they should lose interest.
Never, never respond angrily. In some cases, a message can really hit home. Maybe it sets off your anger. Or it makes you very emotional. Step away from the computer/phone/tablet. Put it down and go for a walk. Yell about it. Scream about it. Cry about it. But never respond. If you respond, you’ll say something you regret. And it could elevate beyond anything you can imagine. (Amy’s Baking Company recently found out the hard way in the past few weeks.)
Focus in on the positive. Every day I hear from people that have nothing but positive stories to share with me. Like this one.
Your best clients love you and what you do. And when they tell you, put it in a file to go back to when you’re having your hard days. It will be a constant reminder that you’re on the right track, doing exactly what you are meant to do.